The controversy surrounding Lindy West's new memoir, "Sexually Detained", has been raised due to her weight, gender, and non-biographic portrayal of her partner, Aham, who is non-binary. The author argues that their entry into polyamory is not necessarily honest and that their relationship is influenced by the nature of their relationship. However, she argues that Aham was honest with Lindy from the start and that Ahem had multiple girlfriends before their relationship became romantic. She argues that the author's personal story, discomfort, misery, contentment, or lack of fulfillment does not speak to the end of a social movement that has been intertwined over several decades.