A reader recalls a 15-year-old coat he stole from his mother-in-law's closet when he was visiting San Diego and never returned it. The coat, which he wears all winter, has become his favorite coat and he often receives compliments. However, he has kept it since he wore it in front of his brother, who was visiting from Minnesota when he saw it and didn't return it. He feels guilty about not returning it, but is embarrassed to bring it up and fears he might want it returned if he mentions it. A reader suggests buying the coat for him with a gift receipt and offering it to him the next time you see him with an explanation of the turmoil you've experienced. If the coat isn't available anymore, consider a gift card. The author suggests shifting your approach to addressing the lying of your mother, who is in her mid-70s.