A woman recently moved to a new town where she feels lonelier than she expected to feel at this stage of life, having left her husband's job and moved away from home to find a new identity. She has tried several social activities, including a book club, gym class, and coffee place, but felt more out of place than before. She worries about being needy or becoming bored due to the lack of connection with others. Adult friendships usually come from consistency, not one great conversation, and finding a regular occurrence can be helpful. The author suggests that reaching out to others in a specific way to connect with each other, such as suggesting a date for coffee.