My mother, "Pop," my stepfather and stepfather, divorced a few years ago and I want to maintain a relationship with him, who was the only father figure in my life. When she hosted her ex and his new wife for a visit, "Judy" and their new wife, "Peggy," came to blows when she found out about their visit. She accused me of betraying her mother, who now lives a few thousand miles away, calling me a traitor and accuses me of love for her ex-stepfather, Pop, more than her. Despite this, I maintain a communication with Pop and his wife and maintain a close relationship with them. In order to soothe her feelings, tell her that you are not her possession or his, and that keeping him in your life is not a betrayal.