Asking Eric, author of About to Lock the Door, about whether or not he should include any mention of your donation to an organization that significantly impacted the health and life of the honoree in a card he brings with his best wishes. This is a move that can be made by charitable organizations to notify someone when a donation is made in their name. A note about your donation can also be written about the organization's mission and its connection to the honorene's life. Suggestions for this include limiting the amount of time that people come, or asking for financial assistance. Finally, consider suggesting that you may be out of the hosting business entirely.