A friend's sister informed her about a party being held at a prestigious venue for milestones such as the 50th wedding anniversary and the birthdays of 13 family members. The event, which is described as a no-gifts event, is expected to attract several hundred people and is expectedly a significant expense. However, Miss Manners suggests that this is not the norm for these parties, as there are social repercussions if you miss them. She also suggests that the invitation may be a ploy for financial gain, but does not believe that these are just nice people who wish to include you in the festivities.