My wife's haste to clean up after dinner guests makes the party feel rushed. She is known as a "party eraser" who clears the first finished plate and puts it in the dishwasher before everyone else is done. Suggestions for a polite way to handle this include suggesting that the cleaning process should begin after the guests are finished, or suggesting that everyone else can help. However, Miss Manners fears this might be an attempt to prevent everyone from crowding her kitchen and breaking her china. An old friend who reconnected with her recently ended the friendship five months after she said she was preoccupied with her son's aging dog and the fleas infested her house.