A woman, who has been dating her boyfriend for a year and a half, who is in their 70s, makes degrading and sarcastic comments about her exes and their friends. Despite months of therapy, the man cannot stop making these comments and is committed to their relationship. This behavior could be considered emotionally abusive. The author suggests that if he can't love you enough to not be cruel to you, it may be a sign that this relationship is actually feeding you.