The article discusses seven signs that dating is not truly dating for love, but for validation. These signs can be found out if someone is more attached to the idea of being chosen than the relationship itself. Dating expert Dr. Sabrina Romanoff suggests that "performative chemistry" can create a convincing connection but lacks a foundation underneath it. Moe Ari Brown, Love and Connection Expert at Hinge, suggests that real interest stays grounded in the person's personal interest, not the relationship. Interest spikes when you're bored or lonely, but flatlines just as quickly as quickly. Observership early on can feel like openness, but this can function more like a shortcut. Dr. Romanoff also suggests that someone is driven by their ego to keep people interested by dangling a carrot. The article also mentions that if conversations with different people consistently appear identical, it could indicate a primary drive for validation rather than intimacy.