A reader writes to Eric Kohn, author of The Daily Mail, about how to navigate situations where friends and family are defensive of their partner due to an undiagnosed neurodivergence and childhood trauma. Kohn realized that he has become the abuser due to undidiagnosed neurodisivergence, and is actively trying to change. Despite this, his new partner, however, appears to be a healthy person and has been supportive of him throughout his relationship. I'm not suggesting pulling away from them, but may consider taking a step back from this relationship to allow them to work on their issues before reuniting in a healthier way. The author also suggests that isolation from friends or family is one of the signs of an abusive relationship, but they may not have a full picture of who you are currently in therapy.