A reader expresses uncertainty about her relationship with a man, who has been in a relationship with him for several years, and feels stuck in a place that's more friendship than partnership. He worries that his daughter, who lives with a 35-year-old daughter, may compromise his relationship with his daughter if he feels he needs to continue helping her. The author suggests that having a low-pressure, joyful, conversations about where each of you is, where you want to go, what's working, and more can help resolve this issue. Suggestions for boundaries with his child can be made once you have a shared goal for your relationship and have an honest, vulnerable conversation about where both you and your partner are and what they want.