A family member sent a "happy anniversary" message to a relative on the wrong date, which upset a reader, who had attended both weddings. The mistake caused her day to be ruined by reminding her of her own wedding anniversary date. Miss Manners suggests that the social fabric of the past has significantly decreased, with opportunities for natural socialization decreasing. She also suggests that gathering friends and family to maintain this sense of community, particularly in this era of social cohesion.