A co-worker sent a text asking why she was taking bereavement leave for the memorial services of her grandmother, which she received approval from HR and her boss. The colleague, who has been trying to become a supervisor for the past 15 years, was so callous and intrusive that she had to text her colleague on her personal phone to inquire about the situation. The reader could only respond by saying "feel free to send flowers," but this was not the best way to express her displeasure. Miss Manners warns that someone insensitive enough to send such a message is unlikely to take a hint.