A man whose wife doesn't like visiting his first wife's grave, who has been gone for over 16 years, is upset with him after he stopped to check on her crypt while out at the cemetery to lay some flowers for her late husband and mother. His wife, who had been married for 15 years, expressed her feelings that he was still visiting the crypt. The author suggests that checking on the crypt isn't a threat to her unless she chooses to make it so. He also suggests that her actions should not affect her marriage or any other relationships affected by alcohol. The writer suggests that understanding why your wife feels strongly about your drinking can affect your marriage or life.