Actor Patrick J. Adams has revealed his nearly 10-year marriage to wife Troian Bellisario, who he credits with listening to each other and putting the other person before themselves. The couple got engaged in 2014 and tied the knot in a ceremony in California in 2016. They have since welcomed three children: Aurora, 7, Elliot, 4 and a newborn baby. In an exclusive interview with PEOPLE, Adams shared his secrets to his relationship, including patience, patience, love, and a new TV series, The Enlightenment.