A woman in her early 80s, who lives in the home where her children live, feels like she is being slowly erased by their efforts to move her into assisted living. Her children, who say they are concerned about her safety, point out things such as a recent fall and a lack of driving at night, as well as forgetting where to put their keys. They have started sending her links to places called "communities" and talking about "the next chapter" and suggesting that it would be easier for them to live in such an environment. The author recommends meeting with her children with a plan that protects your independence instead of surrendering it.