A man who has been married to his narcissistic wife for decades has become increasingly frustrated with her behavior towards him, which he believes is unintentional but hurtful. He has tried to change her behavior by pointing out how it affects him, but she refuses to listen. He feels terrible after making her feel bad and continues to dwell on the issue. His wife, however, can easily fall asleep despite being stressed or dealing with personal issues, yet he finds it easier to connect her with his wife, who can easily disconnect from stress. The author suggests drawing the line with her, telling her to consult a marriage and family therapist if she wishes to change, but if she refuses, go without her.