A long-ago holiday confrontation occurred when my stepmother's father verbally attacked me for inviting my college friends for a holiday dinner, suggesting I was out of line. The incident occurred during a time when I was not able to object or present facts to disagree. After that incident, my step-mother told me she would never have friends over for any holiday again. The author suggests that the proper response to this issue should have been voiced by your stepmother, who argued that sharing holidays with friends was never forbidden before she came into power. She hopes that in adulthood, she has practiced the principle of inclusion.