The author's sister-in-law, 75, divorced and divorced, has a 40-something son who has never held a steady job and uses excuses to manipulate her into giving him money. The son, who is listed as power of attorney for health and finances on her trust, has never been disciplined or disciplined. His mother, who has not disciplined him, is afraid to tell him no and lacks authority to set a boundary with her son. The author suggests contacting Adult Protective Services, a government agency associated with your state's department of health or aging, or reaching out to her directly about her concerns. The article suggests that there may be emotional abuse or financial abuse occurring, which many seniors are in danger of and may not realize they're experiencing. It also suggests that an outside person or firm should be hired to protect her finances from this man/boy.