The author of this article expresses frustration over his wife's belittling and dismissive behavior towards him, which he believes is unintentional but hurtful. He has tried to change her behavior by pointing out how it affects him and expressing his feelings. However, she refuses to listen. The author suggests that you can't change another adult's behavior unless forced to. Instead, tell her to consult a marriage and family therapist or go without her. Your wife's tendency to fall asleep while her own, however, her sleep habits are inconsistent. If you have sleep difficulties, discuss this with your doctor.