The author shares her personal experience with her husband's mother, who has been married and divorced for nearly 35 years, and her mother, whom he believes is the perfect mother. She has always treated me poorly and he always defends her. She believes she is supposed to be everyone's priority and get her way immediately. Her husband defends her, stating that she is the problem, not her, and he believes she should be married to her. The author suggests setting up group agreements for conversation and setting a timer for lunch to ensure everyone is assured a space in the conversation. She also suggests that her mother-in-law should not be subject to criticism or criticism. Suggestions for financial assistance for her cancer treatment can be made so much worse by financial stress.