The author's husband's parents disinherited him from their will after his father died of a heart attack. His wife and husband, who have been subjected to passive-aggressive behavior from their own family, have been unable to explain why they disinhered him. They have since stopped telling each other about their differences and instead just bought gifts for their children. The author expresses concern for the emotional impact of this behavior, stating that it's not fair and unkind. She encourages her husband to work through his grief and confusion with a counselor or a grief support group.