A man who has been married to his wife for decades has become frustrated by her constant belittling and dismissive behavior towards him, which he believes is unintentional but hurtful. He has tried to change her behavior by pointing out how it affects him and expressing his feelings. However, she refuses to listen. He should instead consult a marriage and family therapist or a sleep disorder specialist. The author suggests drawing the line with his wife, stating that you cannot change another adult's behavior unless forced.