Dear Abby: I'm the last in my friend group to get married and my fiancee and fiancee are eloping this summer, so I told my mother and sister that a bridal shower is unnecessary due to their busy lives and I felt it was rude to invite people to a shower when no one would be invited to the elopement. However, no other parties have been planned for me. I feel resentment towards my friends and feel like they are not important to them. How can you manage these feelings? Apologize for the misunderstanding and give permission to your friends to plan a girls’ night out or a private party. A recent issue arose when a friend returned an outfit and cardigan she lent to a friend who washed it before returning it and ruined it.